There is a valid growth technique called ‘staying in the room’.
The concept is that what you suppress does not heal.
What you avoid, what you numb, what you distract yourself from cannot change by avoiding the space where it hurts.
There is no one who makes it through life without crap they need to face, crap they need to heal.
There’s a huge industry built around helping us avoid healing, avoid becoming whole.
Much of what they call self-care, I’ve found to actually be numbing.
If you’re barely holding on until your massage next week so you can relax, it’s possible you need to reduce your responsibilities by learning to say no.
If you’re doing a weekly girls lunch you can’t afford, it’s possible you need to work on clearing money blocks.
If you hit ‘decline’ every time your mother calls, it’s possible you can work on boundaries and cutting energetic cords, becoming less emotionally invested.
In the last several years, I’ve redefined self-care for myself and my clients.
I’ve seen an increase in their ability to define and create and re-enforce boundaries, thereby creating more energy and space in their personal lives.
I’ve seen them create awareness that increases their ability to respond instead of react.
I’ve helped them create an understanding of the role of irritation and jealousy and how those triggers can create positive changes with the right mindset.
When clients start asking the right questions and begin to develop a healing practice, it redefines what self care looks like. When you have a regular support system and a practice of self-paced healing and spiritual practice, it creates far more overall satisfaction and a life you don’t need a vacation from.
Imagine getting a massage to feel good, as a reward, not to relax, not to de-stress – because you’re not stressed.
Imagine knowing there is money available for a whole month of girls lunches because you’ve created habits and systems that support your money goals instead of your money fears.
Imagine knowing you can have a conversation with your mom, then go about your day as if nothing happened, because you’ve reduced your emotional trigger points.
Your life looks different when you don’t need to escape it.
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